The aunts go marching two by two
If only that were true, marching two by two with my sister. I mentioned before that my sister got married, right? She married in May and I found out in late October/early November. Well, I also found out yesterday that she had a baby. Yesterday. Thanks to that cousin for calling me and telling me. But I did not know she was even pregnant. I was not too surprised; she is thirty-one and I know she was ready to start a family. But, I just did not know.
I am real torn about how to respond. Or whether to respond at all. I mean after all, she is not the one that told me. She didn’t invite me to her wedding. She didn’t tell us she was going to have a baby. I didn’t know my grandfather was sick or that he died until it was too late. I am so torn emotionally. I mean, I am an aunt now. I have a nephew that I will probably never know about us. It’s okay. That’s the way they want it. I pray daily for things to be better for my sister as a mother in that family than things were for me. I pray lessons have been learned. I pray she never has to experience what we experienced.
I pray my nephew grows strong and healthy. I pray they teach him about God and His grace and mercy. I pray he will grow strong in the Lord and that he will be steadfast in the knowledge of God’s great love.
I welcome Evan Frazier A. (8 pounds, 3 oz. 19.5 inches long) into our family (as crazy as it is). I have not yet seen a picture. I hope I do soon.
Update: my cousin sent me this photo last night. He is adorable.
Aw, how sad that it is like that, and yet, how wonderful to know there is a new baby in the family. I hope things get better for you all.
I think it is so sad that your family has decided to keep you in the dark about things going on. I hope God changes their hearts soon. I think it is wonderful that you are praying for your nephew. May God bless you.
He is an absolutely beautiful baby!
I may be tempted to send a card. Addressed to the baby. Just welcoming him and letting him know you’re praying for him and his parents.
Short and simple.
If they refuse to open it, or read it, or whatever–that’s their problem. But you tried to build a bridge.
Someday, maybe, God will soften her heart.
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How very, very hard. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you seek what to do or not do.
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I know how hard it is to be estranged from your family. Try to keep your heart open - someday, things might be different.
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I’m so sorry things are so estranged with your family. I will keep you and them in out prayers.
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It must be so difficult to separated from your family like that. The thought of it makes me very sad. I like the advice that was given from Karen to keep your heart open because someday, hopefully it may be different and Karen’s (Pediascribe) advice to send a card to him would be a beautiful sentiment.
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Congratulations on a new little nephew. I’ve seen the birth of a child work miracles in healing hearts and families. Perhaps this is an opportunity to begin that process. In your shoes, I’d send a card, and welcome your sister to motherhood. Let her know you are there for her. What she chooses to do is her choice, but reaching out to her could be good for you (and her, perhaps).
Best wishes. My heart aches for you.